But I know...you push away anytime we start to get close, if you push away first then it won't hurt so bad...how do I know this?? Because I did this for years. My heart craves to be loved and liked but my mind says "no way" you aren't going to hurt me too.
And I let him win...he egged me on all evening and then I stooped to his same behavior and yes I hate that, I am disappointed in myself.
I've been told, don't let the boys see your emotions, you must remain neutral ~~ that is so friggin' hard!!!
Today I'm ready to throw in the towel, run to avoid being hurt over and over but I can't ~ I know that God opened the doors for us to be here at the Boys Ranch and yes most days go smoothly and YES we have seen positive changes in the boys we live and work with ~ BUT it hurts so much when they attack, are disrespectful and openly defiant....I just don't have the tough skin I need...or at least it sure doesn't feel like it today.
So the choice is mine...and I am choosing to fake it till I make it; put on the smiling face and go through the motions.
I know so much influences our day-to-day ~ one of them being tired and YES we are tired ~ we have worked 36 days out of the last 47 days and yes there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We have six more nights/days of work and then we will have our week off...don't really have many plans...a few doctor appointments, an appointment to get the tires rotated on the Expedition which means a walk through Costco!! Hopefully we will get in lots of naps and true rest.
And the dynamics in our home unit have been changing...change is hard, hard on the boys, hard on us and especially hard on the new boys coming into our unit. Tuesday one of our boys returned after being gone for 9 days and we got a new boy. Today we are getting another new boy ~ new to us but not new to the ranch, so we know what some of the issues are going to be and I feel like I have to put on my steel armour and be ready to battle...I don't like that feeling...battles are no fun and no one really ever wins.
Add in frustration with administration of no follow through on things they say will happen or not happen.
Giving us tasks with only partial information and then getting upset with us because we didn't to it right...can't have it both ways.