Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Opinions & Comments

I am a bit perplexed.  Someone posted on Facebook a comment about abortion "it should be totally abolished and anyone who performs an abortion or has one should be charged with murder."  Definitely a hot topic and I hesitated before responding but I did.  I replied "I don't think we can make blanket statements about such personal things.  As a 17 year old who was raped by my step dad on numerous occasions I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt had I gotten pregnant due to those rapes I would have had an abortion."

And boy did I get a response "murder is murder and anyone who commits murder should be punished.  Abortion is murder!"  and then she quoted scripture upon scripture.  I told her I didn't want to argue.  She would never change my mind and I would never change hers.  She came back two more times saying how wrong my thinking was, that I needed to forgive my step dad and move on.  Now nowhere in that dialog did I say I had or had not forgiven my step dad (and I have but that is a post for another day).  I replied for the final time "I hope you are never faced with the situation of being raped ~ and till you are you really don't know what you would do."  She then replied "what about this scenario: a man & woman are married, they have a child.  3 years later he becomes abusive to the mother and she decides to kill the child."  Now what do you say to that.  I did not respond.  I don't believe the two scenarios are any where near the same. 

So then I started thinking ~ I sure hope I have never tried to force my opinion/beliefs on someone especially  if I have never walked in their shoes.  If I have, I am sorry.  And I hope I never do that in the future.


  1. What a poignant post. I decided many years ago to put down the gavel as I had no right to wear the judge's robe. I totally agree with you that dogmatic, judgmental attitudes accomplish nothing. Each one must decide what they can do in a given situation, be it abortion, divorce, or so many of the other things Christians (and others) fight about. As a Christian, it is NOT up to me to judge or condemn, I am commanded to LOVE.

  2. As a Christian ...I too am against abortion....but I would never ever judge a woman having an abortion due to rape. I just thank God I wasn't in her shoes where I would have to decide!!! I am so sorry you suffered as a young woman. How horrible for you and how brave you are to talk about it. I was pregnant at 19 and unmarried. My uncle offered for me to go for an abortion. I didn't hesitate.... I said no I will raise the baby myself. But she was conceived in love not rape. Praise God her daddy married me and here we are 5 children 11 grandchildren and 35 years later....happy.

    Hugs Cindy

  3. I think that I would have not replied at all. There are people who are so opinionated and closed minded that they will NOT hear your response. Just my 2 cents.


  4. This post was a good reminder for all of us not to be overly judgmental, and for those of us who are Christian to lead by example.


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